Freaky Friday... Wait It's Only Tuesday?!?!?!

What a day. It's 430 in the morning and I'm up thinking about yesterday's freaky events. The events that have so many different emotions attach to them. Events that will change my future and have some effect on my life dramatically, which is crazy because it's only Tuesday. The third day in the week.

Let's start from the beginning.

I start the day with a meeting. It's funny that once you're in a position to change or make change with a little power, you always seem to use your 8 hours at work in meetings. Meetings that are 'training' you to be a better leader, which I find funny because how can you lead from inside an office learning how to lead. That to me seems like a crazy oxymoron philosophy.

After the meeting, I get told by my dear boss that I have to work a weekend day. It's up to me what works for my schedule but I have to give up one of my weekends till everything in the kitchen is up to par and I have enough good 'natural leaders' around me that the kitchen can run without me. Well, that's sucks. I had to debate the odds of giving up my Saturdays instead of my Sundays and after about 45 minutes, Sundays got the boot. I will now be working from Sunday till Thursday. Awesome (are you hearing the excitement?).

Well, this new schedule brought into light another issue. Softball. My new exercise program that had some influence on why I'm with the most amazing man ever. So deep down I believe I owe the sport some respect, right?!!?!?!? Plus the team needed girls; however, my sanity needed some stuff off my over filled plate of life. Softball got the boot but it was easy because for some reason my team had already replaced me. Slap in the face but hey, I guess when you bring a team together, get the sponsorship and have life happen (i.e. Mylah breaking her arms, work schedule and stress) ... the life happen part is the only thing people really seem to pay attention too without empathy or compassion. Sweet!!!!!

You would think this would be enough for one day of stress but it's not... not with dear Christina in charge of her day. The softball issue brought light to a icky situation from this weekend and possibly the destruction of a long friendship between me and a dear friend. It seems that with a little bit of the diarrhea of the mouth, I may have said something a little bit tactless and hurtful. I know this comes with no surprise to most anyone that knows me really; however, when I tried to fix this Saturday situation, it became apparent that my Saturday event may have been the event that broke the camel's back. I was informed in a very lengthy and matter-of-fact text about how horrible of a friend I truly was and needed to come to terms with those realities. That I think really hurt because no matter how I try to understand everything from the text that was trying to be hurtful towards me, showed emotions of the hurt I caused them ignorantly. It sucks that it may cause a huge change in my life and my daughter's. The worst part, that situation is out of my hands. I did everything to try to fix it, now I get to wait and see. Have I ever told you how much I hate waiting?

Well, it's only noon now and I have now been kicked off the softball team and in a way that it's suppose to look like it was my idea, destroyed a friendship and changed my schedule at work for the fourth time since I started my new job a week ago. ARGH. I get home to unwind and to tell you the truth, if drinking before noon was totally cool and we were in Germany, I would of had a shot or two but since drinking before 3pm makes you a lush... I found another way to unwind.

A bird.

A medium size, blackish-brown spotted funky looking bird with a beak that looked like it could do some damage, was in my bedroom. It had somehow gone through my screen window and made himself at home, all over my curtains. I had so much doo-doo all over my curtains, you would have thought this bird was Picasso and his ass was the paint brush. A little freaked and worried for my life but mostly worried that my curtains were running out of 'canvas' space and my bed would be the bird's next target for an art display. I took my bird catching skills in to action. Now my bird catching skills were more of me ducking close to the ground and protecting my face from this bird, which if you think about really isn't smart. Let me explain why, when you're walking into a room while covering your face and eyes, the only thing you have to go off is your sense of hearing. Well........ when you have a freaked out bird... the bird is moving around your bedroom like it's on crack and this in turn just freaks me out even more; however, the second I saw that bird land my precious bed. I went into SuperWoman stance and needed to protect my 500 thread count Egyptian Cotton sheets. The bird must of noticed a change in my demeanor because at this point, the stupid thing kept running into my upper window with full force. Even though the bottom of the windows were fully open.

I had a stupid bird on my hands!

I had to fake the bird out, which meant putting towels up to hide the upper parts of the window without the 'special' bird running into me full force. It was quite the event and honestly speaking, had someone video tapped it... I would have become a Youtube hit over night. After about 15 minutes of craziness and my mother in tears laughing, I got the bird out of my room and the stripping of bedroom began.

Now almost running late for Mylah's 1:15pm appointment to assess the 'TWO' broken arms, I panic and race out the door. Mylah's still laughing about the bird situation and bringing into light the comedy about the whole event. She told me I looked funny 'fighting' the bird. When we got to the appointment with a minute to spare, the doctor walked in with this 'You suck as a mother' face. Dr. Asshole, looked at me after the fourth time of Mylah and me telling him the story behind both incidents and informed me that he was calling CPS on me. Let's just say at this point, had my daughter not been 2 feet away from me, watching my every move... I think I would of mauled and skinned the guy right there. I was pissed, then scared, then back pissed again, which then became another 'Diarrhea of the Mouth' moment with Gerald's answering machine. The best part of the whole meeting with Dr. Asshole was him telling me that Mylah's arm wasn't really broken but there was some trauma to the elbow because there was fluid build up. Thanks Captain Obvious. It's great when you get a doctor that assumes you beat your child, even though the child shows no other signs of beating except a huge smile of happiness and a love for life but whatever!!!! I finally calmed myself down with the little help of a 'pick me up' talk with Chet to comprehend that "YES! I am a good mother" and this doctor just has to take precautions for the child's safety. The next child with two broken arms could be a child being abused.

So Tuesday... what a day... Mylah fell another two times that day and dumped a whole glass of pink lemonade down her arms. Just normal natural kids things because she still wants to skip, jump and run. Trying to convience Mylah that she has too be careful is like trying to seperate flies from shit. I swear, I'm going to need to bubble wrap that child to keep her safe. To make all the event a sealed package of a crazy-freaky-terribly-bad-day... I had to stalk and kill a spider. Seriously... I'm going to Staples today for that easy button they are suppose to have. All in All though, I'm excited to see what today has because like God tells us in the bible a million times... "It's a new day with a fresh start for Him to bless me!" So Dear God... Could you hold the Bull Shit today? Just asking. ;-)

True Leadership Lesson is Leadership

Here I am. A Whitworth graduate with all the answers and willingness to jump into any leadership role that is offered to me after school; however, a week into my new director job and I've come to realize that everything I learned in class was just the frosting on the cake of leadership. My education gave me the ability to tell you the differences between why two generations can't communicate, explain why management thinks a certain way and possibly discuss almost everything on a financial report, with the greatest of ease; however, I think that it really missed the human part of leadership. The idea that every employee has their own way of thinking and their own idea of what they think a leader can and can't do. This week has been my time to not only address my title role but to also express a need for change in an environment that hasn't had leadership for the last year. It's been interesting to say the least.

The challenges that come with being a leader go beyond your title. I've been reading a lot of leadership books to prepare for this position. I've recruited many different leaders for mentors to help guide me in this new chapter of my life. I've interviewed most of the employees and have listened to everyone’s feed-back to determine what needs to change and what needs to not be touched. I've found that no matter how prepared you are for any job, the human aspect is one that can't be addressed till you’re in the position and dealing with it firsthand. I have to say though; I have an amazing team that will not only blow the standards out of the water but are also willing to help and wanting me to lead them.

On my third day, I had an employee tell me that they were happy I was there. Everyone thinks that I will do well; however, I'm nervous because I now realize that I have so many people's trust in leading them into a successful future with this company. I now have these expectations of helping this team become an amazing group of productive individuals. I think it's scary to realize how much influence one can have when someone gives you a title of leadership. I don't want to take this title to heart because it's only a title. I want to lead these people and earn not only the title, but their respect in leading them. I think Jesus' reflection of being a 'gentleman leader' is the one that I want to take. I don't want to force anyone to follow me but pray that with guidance, a prayerful heart and a whole lot of patience, God will make me the leader that these people need me to be for them. When God does that, I won't need to force anyone because they will want to follow and be lead.

'Mommy, Why aren't you Scared?"

Fear, according to Wikipedia is nothing more than an idea of a perceived threat to ones' self. Fear is the body's way of alarming you of danger and to put you to alert stats mood.

Now most people's idea of what fear is could be different. I'm totally not okay with scary movies. I have yet seen a Jason, Jaws or Halloween movie. I get scared too much, that the last movie I saw with Jenn, Jane Austen's 'Jane Eyre'; I spent most of the time watching the inside of my eyeballs because the movie scared the crap out of me. The music, the dark colors and the character's just gave me the willies. Jenn, on the other hand being a totally lovely best friend/ sister, found my fear comical and maybe a little ridicules. Jenn still teases me about it.

Tonight though, Mylah had fear with the thunder storm. She cried, wouldn't leave my side and needed to be cuddled after every loud and fearful, thunderous sound. Being a mother of many talents, I have to say cuddling with my princess is my best one and I love it; however, when she's scared and crying. The cuddling doesn't really have the same effect of just loving my princess, it's more of a 'Poor Baby / Damn this thunder!' kind of cuddling job. Well, while I was comforting Mylah, she asks me, 'Mommy, why aren't you scared of things?'

At first I wanted to laugh but seeing that my daughter right now saw me as some Super Hero that could kick thunder's ass, I didn't want to enlighten her about how wrong she was. So instead here I am writing a blog about it.

Things that scare the shit out of me -

1) Spiders... don't really need to go into a huge spill about this because who isn't and if you say your not, you're lying to yourself!

2) The idea of not being the greatest mother ever to my duaghter. I don't want my princess to grow up wishing I spent more time with her or if the Good Lord has it, takes me too early to see her grow... I don't want to waste any time I have on stuff that can be done tomorrow like laundry, homework and needing to vaccuum for the 15th time. Personally, I think playing Barbies is way better too.

3) Getting into an accident in 'bad underware'. Now I think this is a fear that my mother instilled in me from a young girl. My mom always told me that when you don't prepare, that's when bad things happen. I.E. Having only those holey, electric-green granny panties, that you only bring out when you run out of panties because the washer broke, for when you get rushed into the hospital with SINGLE - Dr. McDreamy as your doc.

4) Wasting time. Now most of my friends will tell you that I'm probably the only person you can count on to be late to anything. I will most defiantly be late to my own wedding and possibly my own funeral; however, with that being said, the reason why I am always late is because I don't want to waste any time. This means that I will count down the minutes I have to get ready and start to debate the cute level needed for the event that I am attending. In doing this, I free up more time to do other things around my house or with Mylah. This in turn makes me late to everything because I never really follow through on the list of things I debated away already.

5) Leaving this world without making a difference. I volunteer for a lot of things. Sometimes I volunteer a little too much because I get a little confused on where I should be and who needs me most; however, the thing that makes those moments worth the headache is hearing my 5 year old ask about her next time helping with feeding the poor or packing toys for kids. Personally, when I'm in front of the 'Big Guy' and He's looking at my nice size rap sheet of shit I've done, I hope the good out weighs the bad. (SIDE NOTE - Yes, I do realize that you don't get into Heaven by good works but it's couldn't hurt trying ;-) Plus I think that we are all somehow connected to each other and need one another, so I want to help and show mercy and love to as many people as I can.

Now this list could go on and on, but I won't. I have fears and even though my little princess may think I'm this amazing Butt-Kicking Super Hero with amazing PB & J sandwich making skills, I still know that deep down... my biggest fear would be taking that idea away from her and letting her see me for nothing more than just the most luckest mother alive to have God bless me as her mother. I love that girl!!!!!